I’m fat. People constantly say, “don’t wear tight clothes, it’s not flattering at all.”
I’m fat. I am fat in all of the clothes I wear. I can try and “hide” my body, but it’s still there. You can still clearly see that I. Am. Fat.
I shouldn’t have to modify my clothing habits so that other people don’t have to see that I am fat. This is my body, I’m proud of it, and if you don’t want to see my fat, don’t look.
bringin this shit back
Just please get the fuck off my blog if you think skinny-shaming, reverse sexism or reverse racism are an actual thing.
If you wanna whine about your tough privileged life go somewhere else.
I think everybody has preferences.
I also think we have the duty to ourselves and to others to examine where those preferences come from. Trans people are definitely hardly ever painted as sexually attractive in mainstream media. They don’t even appear in publication and social media that is usually accessible to people when they start experiencing their sexuality, in their teenage years. They are ridiculed, fetishised, often only portrayed as a weird cis-sexist parody of themselves. So why would you find that attractive? Have you met many trans people? Dated anyone? Kissed a trans person? Or is all you have access to the horrible mainstream image we have of trans people?
For a really long time I thought I just wasn’t attracted to people who weren’t white. You know, just a preference. Then I wised up and realised that’s because all my life I have been suggested in very unsubtle ways that being white and white skin is desirable and that people of colour are less than that, an exotic fetish at best, something you either have a fixation for or you try out, like a funky ice cream flavour. I got over myself.
I don’t want you to force yourself into sexual experiences that you don’t enjoy, for your sake and the sake of trans people that might be hurt by that, but if I was you I would definitely be open to the possibility that transphobia plays a part in your lack of attraction and think about how you could mend that.
Yes, really, how mean of me not to appreciate the excluding, awful, pressurising, bland mainstream aesthetic 90% of the world follows but only a very small percentage of people can actually achieve.
And if your aesthetic excludes anyone who is not skinny, white and cis then please don’t kid yourself into thinking your aesthetic isn’t twisted, racist and body-shaming and has NOTHING to do with body-positivity or feminism.
To make it clearer, so even dummy anons can understand this:
If your blog features nothing but skinny white people (or you like the good old “pale aesthetic”) I won’t follow you, I don’t want you to follow me and I will sure as hell not grace you with a picture of my glorious fat body.
Over and out.